bellwhiff wrote:Yep I agree. I had a friend bang himself a couple of weeks back. Absolute tragedy. It’s important to track out and although we do squabble, there’s far more that unites us than divides us.
ParisStag wrote:bellwhiff wrote:Yep I agree. I had a friend bang himself a couple of weeks back. Absolute tragedy. It’s important to track out and although we do squabble, there’s far more that unites us than divides us.
Sorry to hear about your friend. That's awful. Make sure you talk to someone about it.
bellwhiff wrote:Yep I agree. I had a friend bang himself a couple of weeks back. Absolute tragedy. It’s important to track out and although we do squabble, there’s far more that unites us than divides us.
lifestags wrote:Anyone else feeling just a bit crappy at the minute? Probably the “winter blues” you read about.
lifestags wrote:Anyone else feeling just a bit crappy at the minute? Probably the “winter blues” you read about.
bellwhiff wrote:lifestags wrote:Anyone else feeling just a bit crappy at the minute? Probably the “winter blues” you read about.
My ex wife suffers from SADS. It’s a thing.
I’ll add that she still suffers with it even though we are divorced:)
georgefostersbeard wrote:bellwhiff wrote:lifestags wrote:Anyone else feeling just a bit crappy at the minute? Probably the “winter blues” you read about.
My ex wife suffers from SADS. It’s a thing.
I’ll add that she still suffers with it even though we are divorced:)
The blue lamp that SADS sufferers use can be highly effective. I have a friend who is almost crippled in November by the change in the hour and the onset of long dark evenings and he swears by his. That said, before his children started school as he worked remotely they would move to Malta for November and December.
lifestags wrote:Anyone else feeling just a bit crappy at the minute? Probably the “winter blues” you read about.
PEAR CIDER wrote:quite spine chilling that ending
There have been so many local lads over the last couple of years that have taken their own life, its so awful to see. A couple of these, you'd have never known on the surface there was an issue they were dealing with.
The society we live in there does seem to be a stigma of talking about it. its almost as if people don't want to put the burden onto others, especially when in a group environment. In the worse scenarios people just cannot feel they can talk and before you know it, its too late.
More of a rhetorical question, but how can you help and offer support when you dont know there is an issue?
PEAR CIDER wrote:In the climate we live in now, i feel its only going to get worse.
People all over the place are feeling the pinch, even those that are on mid range incomes. Trying to make ends meet only enhances the stress, burden and anxiety that goes on in the background.
unfortunately this isn't something that talking about can necessarily resolve.
PEAR CIDER wrote:quite spine chilling that ending
There have been so many local lads over the last couple of years that have taken their own life, its so awful to see. A couple of these, you'd have never known on the surface there was an issue they were dealing with.
The society we live in there does seem to be a stigma of talking about it. its almost as if people don't want to put the burden onto others, especially when in a group environment. In the worse scenarios people just cannot feel they can talk and before you know it, its too late.
More of a rhetorical question, but how can you help and offer support when you dont know there is an issue?
Marky Mark wrote:PEAR CIDER wrote:quite spine chilling that ending
There have been so many local lads over the last couple of years that have taken their own life, its so awful to see. A couple of these, you'd have never known on the surface there was an issue they were dealing with.
The society we live in there does seem to be a stigma of talking about it. its almost as if people don't want to put the burden onto others, especially when in a group environment. In the worse scenarios people just cannot feel they can talk and before you know it, its too late.
More of a rhetorical question, but how can you help and offer support when you dont know there is an issue?
It's a great question, and as someone who has struggled terribly with mental health challenges over the last few years - and has learnt a lot about it as a result of ongoing therapy - I've definitely changed how I am with other people in the hope that they see someone they can talk to if ever they needed to. Everyone has mental health challenges, the only difference is where you are on the scale of it. A lot of people with depression/mental health challenges are high functioning, so I genuinely don't think there's anything you can do to identify it specifically in any person as everyone shows different signs, if any signs at all. I think the only sign I've noticed with people is that they tend to go off radar when they're struggling. The best thing you can do is to be approachable to all of your mates, hug them, tell them how important they are to you, be open about your own struggles, do things with them and hope that in you they see someone that they can approach - and if they do then be aware that your role is not to solve their challenges, but just to be there and listen and direct them to help - people with mental health challenges want to be with people they feel safe with personally, not treated as though they're different, and not told what to do to make it better (outside of being directed to help).
An approachable male mate is not an easy thing to be in an alpha-masculine world, but for me it's one of the main things any of us can do to make a difference. I know the people in my circle who I could go to, even if they don't know it themselves.
Sorry to hear about your mate Zod
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